Flirting: Tips From An Older Sister

Flirting's got this amazing power of attracting the opposite sex and obviously, as teens, that's exactly what we want to do. But for you newbie flirters out there. How the heck do you do it? First, it's an innate talent. But don't worry. Everyone can flirt. It's imbedded in our DNA. Everyone had this talent hidden up their sleeves from the moment they hit puberty. Ah. Puberty. It's a wonderful thing. But I'll save that up for another blog post if I feel like it.

So enough talking writing. How do you use this amazing talent?

Pick your target

He doesn't even have to be your crush. You can practice flirting with anyone you meet. At school. At parties. On the street... You need to hone your flirting skills by the time you target people who REALLY matter.

Use an opening line

"Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?" "Where have you been all my life?" "Is it hot in here, or is it just you?" JUST. DON'T. Cheesy pick up lines are the worst things ever invented. Of course, if that's who you are, by all means, do that thang, but if not, don't think about going all cheese on your crush. Have an opening line that actually makes sense depending on where you are. If you are in class, ask a question about the assignment you just had. If you're at a concert, ask about music or the band you're listening to.

Speak with your eyes

Eye contact is serious business. It makes you look confident, which in turn, makes you look attractive. But at the same time, don't stare him down. You don't want to seem like Overly Attached Girlfriend.


Don't be self-conscious about your smile. Every smile is beautiful. (: :D C: In fact, smiling can speak way more than words sometimes. That'll let the guy know that you like talking to him. And as guys can get super confused about whether a girl likes him or not, a smile and a little blushing could give him the confidence he needs about your interest.

Compliment him

Compliments are amazing. They give confidence, they give a reason to talk, and they provide more tips for the clueless boy that you really do like him. Here's a tip from me to you about compliments: don't do it when there are other people around. That leads to annoying teasing. Besides, complimenting him when you're alone has more impact. *winks*

And right before I end this blog post with my name, just a couple of don't's:

Don't let awkward silences edge they way into the conversation.

Yeah, I really don't have to explain this one, do I? Keep the conversation flowing.

And don't over flirt.

Or else you'll just look creepy and desperate.

Do you have any flirting tips that you want to share?

-Barista Mia-