Sometimes, things just don’t seem to go your way. If anyone realized that lately, it’s me. I recently had a move, which would be hard enough
in and of itself, but I was escaping a tough family situation, and am
now living with someone I hardly know. Sounds fun, right? Maybe you’re
not in the same situation but have been feeling really down lately. I’m
just starting to learn, barely, what can get
me going again.
For those of you in a similar situation, here are what has helped me get me back on my feet. Some of these things are going to seem
counterintuitive, or even contradictory, but the thing is, different
things work for different people, so I’m going to throw them all out
there.
Music- happy, or sadOne night I was being all
moody until my friend started playing Rainbow Bunchie. If you haven’t
heard it, it’s the most cheerfully stupid song ever, accompanied by a
bouncing rainbow... thing. For some reason it made me crack a grin and I
had an instant mood whiplash, but the good kind.
But then again,
sometimes, especially if you feel like you need your feelings to be
validated, it’s helpful to listen to sad/angry/deep/dramatic music.
Sometimes I feel too poopy to rock out to my favorite uplifting songs and I
go temporarily emo (which I personally find is really fun, and a
side of me I like to explore on occasion). You might have to try a few
different songs before finding out that fits your current mood.
Talk with your friendsMaybe
you have a friend who you can tell EVERYTHING to, and who’ll give you
awesome advice. That’s a really good thing, and I have a friend like
this. But even if you’re friends are the type who would rather tickle
attack you or play video games the entire time, just go with it. Even
hanging out, not talking about anything important- or even not talking
much at all- can really help. But if someone can actually help yousort out your problems, all the better.
Ask someone who is wiser than youSpeaking
of advice, here’s a thought: especially if you’re young, your friends
may very well not know what the heck they’re talking about. So as cliché
as it may seem, going to someone older or more experienced can make a
lot of difference. I’m not saying your friends don’t have good ideas-
they might have great ones!- but it’s also good to check in with someone
who’s had more life experience, like a parent/guardian, older relative
or even a counselor, if you feel so inclined (they can be good because
you don’t know them personally and they have confidentiality
agreements). Sometimes even just having someone to listen to you, who
doesn’t get ruffled by whatever mood you might be in (I always cry when
things get really personal) can be really, really great.
Take your mind off itInstead
of lying in bed all day glaring at the ceiling, try getting up and
doing something. Rock out to your favorite play list while you clean the
house, or take a walk, or get some of your friends together and have a pizza party. It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you stay safe and get your
mind off things. If you can get something productive done somehow,
like chores or a workout, you’ll feel even better. Which reminds me...
Seriously, try working outThe
endorphins released from working out can improve your mood by a whole heap. And
this isn’t just some science-y thing, I’ve felt this myself. If you
aren’t used to working out, start out slow and gradually build up your exercise tolerance. You’ll be healthier and happier!
Smile. Just try it!And
if all of this doesn’t work, just remember: you WILL feel better sooner or later. Maybe
it won’t be today, or maybe it won’t be this week- heck, life is hard
and sometimes it really hurts!- but you’ll see the sunshine one day, and
it may be sooner than you think, or at a time or place you don’t
expect. I really like the song “Smile” by Vitamin C (yeah, I like old
geeky music, lol). I was upset this morning and I have to admit, it’s
hard NOT to cheer up at least a little when you hear a song telling you
that yes, life is tough, but smile, okay?! And the best part is, if you DO
smile, your body will be a little happier just from that simple act. So smile, even if it feels stupid. You might be surprised. Because life
really is, in the end, one confusing but wonderful surprise after
another. So try to enjoy the ride. I will.
-Barista Nicole-
Image:
Steven Zwerink
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